tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post1886739871875518927..comments2023-09-26T09:48:49.979-04:00Comments on ...but then I had kids: Ten years, another life, a different personLiz Aguerrehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09465793815137696650noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-15536238397576208722010-02-23T19:30:06.154-05:002010-02-23T19:30:06.154-05:00I just found your blog...seriously a moment ago, a...I just found your blog...seriously a moment ago, and want to tell you that you are amazing and brave and true. I love your real.<br />So great to find your blog.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01471890907217367267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-87145977175380499852010-02-23T05:06:24.035-05:002010-02-23T05:06:24.035-05:00Hi Liz, I've just found your blog and this pos...Hi Liz, I've just found your blog and this post hits me hard. I've had a similar experience, only from the other side of the coin. My husband left me after 11 years together (four of those married) nearly four years ago. I was devastated at the time and it seemed he had no real reason to leave. But boy am I glad he made that decision. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm now myself again - I didn't realise I'd lost myself! I'm doing all the things I always wanted to do but never got round to because I was too busy pretending that we had the perfect marriage... we should have just stayed best friends from the start and everyone would have been happier.<br /><br />But then again, isn't it experiences like these that actually help make us into the people we are today? In which case, i wouldn't change a thing.<br /><br />Thanks for this blog post. It's beautifully written and definitely heartfelt. It's dragged up some hellish feelings, but in a good way, if that's possible!<br /><br />Just off to follow you!Holly's Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02429479900700209327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-21545585321977859032010-02-23T01:21:28.801-05:002010-02-23T01:21:28.801-05:00This story reminds me of my own, Liz. I know that ...This story reminds me of my own, Liz. I know that I had a different, better vision of what my life could be and what love could be. I also knew that, whatever might happen in the future, I couldn't waste one more minute of my life with him. Best thing I ever did too!Linda Pressmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01809808676659629555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-45272940242241433352010-02-22T23:37:54.045-05:002010-02-22T23:37:54.045-05:00WOW! The emotions behind the words are so strong a...WOW! The emotions behind the words are so strong and powerful. I am left speechless in a very good way! I hope we are raising our children to be more in tune with their inner feelings so they stop mistakes before they happen. Your true heart shows here!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-34982334371781836802010-02-22T21:23:22.348-05:002010-02-22T21:23:22.348-05:00Sorry to be so late to see this post - one that re...Sorry to be so late to see this post - one that really blew me away. I admire your courage and self-knowledge in making what must have been an incredibly difficult decision. And I can't get over how fortuitous it was, given how happy you are now. As Kitch noted, safeguarding your own happiness is justification enough for just about anything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-2503139563282927642010-02-21T15:58:15.429-05:002010-02-21T15:58:15.429-05:00I can't imagine how hard it must have been to ...I can't imagine how hard it must have been to make the decision to leave but wow - you have so made the right decision<br /><br />Its a beautiful postMuddling Alonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04702217530704657676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-90271339468205220182010-02-21T08:18:06.566-05:002010-02-21T08:18:06.566-05:00I can't imagine how hard it was for you to lea...I can't imagine how hard it was for you to leave...and how you must feel now, looking back at that young girl you used to be. 10 years feels like a different lifetime, doesn't it? <br /><br />Thank you for sharing something so personal and beautifully writtenckhttp://badmommymoments.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-79761348854647615892010-02-20T19:52:16.410-05:002010-02-20T19:52:16.410-05:00Thank you, Liz. For sharing this real story. This ...Thank you, Liz. For sharing this real story. This real truth. You are strong. You are brave. You are inspiring.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13969567138255166449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-24145793201149129862010-02-20T16:04:47.190-05:002010-02-20T16:04:47.190-05:00Posts like this one have earned you an award! :0)Posts like this one have earned you an award! :0)Kelly Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12738542739547858853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-80679331087711150482010-02-20T12:29:44.819-05:002010-02-20T12:29:44.819-05:00Good for you. What a great story, and testament t...Good for you. What a great story, and testament to how we do know ourselves best of all, even when we doubt that. I could use a little of this bravery (not about my marriage, but just trusting myself in general) right now, and so I thank you for sharing this.Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12909653448867538655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-76058868372230096192010-02-19T22:43:11.957-05:002010-02-19T22:43:11.957-05:00You know how I feel about this...although not with...You know how I feel about this...although not with the marriage thing, certainly with teh whole daughter thing...and you have to be happy for yourself, because you are the one you ALWAYS have to live with...So many lives change with just one step. Sometimes you just have to hold on to your ass, jump, and pray you land on both feet...because anything is better than suffering in silence and plastering a frozen smile on your face for all the world to see...Good for you!Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01869747946511793954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-77467588146456216962010-02-19T18:33:28.556-05:002010-02-19T18:33:28.556-05:00I loved this. It's why I love you so much. Yo...I loved this. It's why I love you so much. You are passionate... about the wonderful things and the tough things. You know what you want and you make them happen (or try to). My very best IRL friend had an identical (in writing) story to yours. Everyone thought she had it all with her husband but she knew she didn't. She was desperate but scared to leave. And then one day she did. Without telling anyone. Just showed up on her mom's doorstep with a pillow. Best thing she ever did. And my point of telling you about my friend? I don't have one except to say that I was so proud of her. And now I am of you because you live a life anyone would love to have.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-71083410967725706152010-02-19T15:27:52.291-05:002010-02-19T15:27:52.291-05:00Different reasons, different story, but same theme...Different reasons, different story, but same theme in my life, Liz. I was a different person 10 years ago (or so). Unhappy. Miserable. And it all feels like a lifetime ago. I remember so much of it so clearly but have to really shake myself to see that it's MY life I'm remembering and not some scene in a movie. <br /><br />You left. And now you have a life I am SURE that so many are envious of. Your relationship with your husband astonishes me every time you write about it and I'm tickled pink by the passion you have for one another.Sarahhttp://momalom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-28476575063957017782010-02-19T11:55:06.987-05:002010-02-19T11:55:06.987-05:00What a lesson you are to those who are too afraid ...What a lesson you are to those who are too afraid to rock the boat. Your babies are so blessed to have you as their role model.Kelly Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12738542739547858853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-23047114148712292302010-02-19T11:39:49.050-05:002010-02-19T11:39:49.050-05:00What a beautiful tribute to yourself. :0) As I rea...What a beautiful tribute to yourself. :0) As I read I admired your strength to break the chain of what was "supposed to be" for what you WANTED and loved and desired. :0) Thank you so much for sharing.Kristi Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17527544253341529009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-29390045467255835272010-02-19T11:36:40.274-05:002010-02-19T11:36:40.274-05:00What a raw and honest post. Thank you.What a raw and honest post. Thank you.Amberhttp://makingthemomentscount.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-40784707292409084992010-02-19T10:58:21.013-05:002010-02-19T10:58:21.013-05:00You were very brave...you must have instinctively ...You were very brave...you must have instinctively realised that you'd be happier apart and knew you were making the right decision xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-46859490409459783442010-02-19T09:09:54.587-05:002010-02-19T09:09:54.587-05:00*think*--lazy fingers this morning :)*think*--lazy fingers this morning :)TKWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16409505008377005185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-66163045165828616662010-02-19T09:09:31.546-05:002010-02-19T09:09:31.546-05:00It always baffles me that people thing you need a ...It always baffles me that people thing you need a "bigger" reason to leave than "I am not happy." WTF? That's plenty reason!<br /><br />Good for you, brave girl.TKWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16409505008377005185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-89191565895759296402010-02-19T08:37:22.232-05:002010-02-19T08:37:22.232-05:00way to go girl! we are sisters and don't know...way to go girl! we are sisters and don't know each other, well, let me introduce myself, my name is Carol. so, now that we are sisters, are we having the picnic at your place or mine? lol take care.C.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12004153268370337727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-32672904090511824172010-02-19T07:53:02.388-05:002010-02-19T07:53:02.388-05:00Liz....you are amazing.
I enjoy your blog so much...Liz....you are amazing.<br /><br />I enjoy your blog so much....for lots of reasons really.....but a big one is your honesty, you are so inspiring.....I really mean that.<br /><br />It is so easy, consciously or subsconsciously, to go along with others expectations of you.....I know as the "good girl" in my family, that that hung over me for years, and in fact, it still does to some extent!<br /><br />You must have had enormous courage to leave the marriage, especially knowing how people would respond and how they would inevitably wonder what was "wrong" with you, since your ex-husband seemed like the one.<br /><br />How wonderful then that you are now married to the most fantastic man and that you are clearly so happy.....you deserve it.<br /><br />Fabulous post! xoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07435722126028910012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-78549969247386910082010-02-19T07:32:57.014-05:002010-02-19T07:32:57.014-05:00Good for you!! You are a brave woman!Good for you!! You are a brave woman!Nickihttp://www.nickisnook.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-55499580081559841112010-02-19T07:25:40.143-05:002010-02-19T07:25:40.143-05:00Thanks for being so open and for giving me some th...Thanks for being so open and for giving me some thought to it...Kyrstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435200804057377062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8201961112490811175.post-20335147731124823892010-02-19T07:11:41.371-05:002010-02-19T07:11:41.371-05:00I bet there are so many women who feel like you fe...I bet there are so many women who feel like you felt 10 years ago but are just to afraid to take that step. Good for you, actually, great for you : ) Happiness is priceless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com